Not sure exactly what you are asking for. It
may be that you want "a bit of advice" or it might be that you are wondering
about becoming a client and want some reassurance that your daughter's
behaviour is the type of behaviour with which we are successful.
I am afraid that we no longer attempt to give one or two
emails with advice because parents need more analysis of their particular
problem than this allows. The problem has often been created over many
years and although we are usually able to change the required behaviours in a
matter of weeks we feel it is not realistic to expect this change from one
or two emails. Parents almost always need monitoring and support in
implementing the strategies we suggest.
Yes, the behaviour you describe does sound typical
of the type of behaviour that we successfully change. This is the type of behaviour that we are very experienced in
I could indicate to you why it is that the sanctions (punishments) you impose on your daughter do not seem to affect her, but a change in this area needs to be combined with a fundamental shift in the way that you handle her in other key areas.
We will need to train you and tips alone, I am afraid, will not
help you with that process.
We work with parents on the basis of
a visit to your home to hear the detail of the problem that you are
experiencing; and set out a clear analysis of the reasons we think your
child is behaving in that way; then we spell out a clear strategy for you to
follow to change the behaviour.
Following the consultation day you begin using the
techniques we suggest straight away and you phone us each evening (including
weekends) until all the behaviour that causes problems has completely gone.
This process usually takes between three and five
weeks but can be longer. Regardless of the time involved we
charge a single set fee and continue to work with you until you are
satisfied that the behaviour will not return.
An email with advice will not really help you as you will
need help each day at the beginning to avoid the responses to your daughter's behaviour that
are natural to you at the moment. We will also need to train you to use
responses that target the behaviour more precisely than the
responses that you have tried so far. Your daughter is as
trapped by this behaviour as you are so your responses to it need to be
carefully modified. We would need to work with both yourself and
your husband and it is best (where possible) if one or other of you can
use an extension line when you phone.
We have a 100% success rate with this type of
I will be happy to talk to you further if you wish on 0208
I will be the consultant working with you should you wish
to use our services.
Behaviour Change Consultancy
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