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Posted by: Sweetp at 8:11 on 23/7/2003
To be honest it made me scared. How on earth do you judge the best way to bring up your child (oviously that mother misjudged), anyone could end up with a child like that.
I found myself analysing everything I do. I'm glad that it worked out for them, but yes her mother would need to work hard.
I probably kiss and cuddle my son too much but I just love him so much, I could never be like that with him. It was sad, but at the end with Georgina and her nephew I felt things looked good.
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comfymum
Yes I agree
If you take a clip of any one person at a really bad moment in time (like when the little girl was throwing the tantrum and the Mum was blanking her) I bet there are lots of us who could be shown in an equally bad light! She might have been behaving like that for hours and the Mum had simply had enough! The chances are if she had gone to give the girl a cuddle she would have had thrashing arms and legs to deal with as well as the screaming!
I obviously felt very upset for Georgina, but actually felt more sympathy for the Mum.
At least she could see a problem and tried to do something about it. She was incredibly isolated. It seems as though she had no close friends, no mention of family nearby to help - the only mention of them was of thrashings with a carpet beater!!! - a dh who was away (radio engineer in the Navy?) and a child who did not fulfill her hopes and dreams (whatever the causes!)
How badly must that poor woman have been hurting to "freeze" her feelings for her own child!?
Having had depression for years and been very close to the point of calling someone - anyone - to take my children away for a while/permanently where on earth were all the "supporters" for those 7 years! If the poor woman had such bad depression why on earth was she not being helped! She fought to keep her baby (as the Dad had said during pg that he wasn't sure he wanted to start another family at his stage in life), then ended up with a prem baby, panic stricken and not knowing what to do with her.
I remember that terror of the first time alone with my own daughter even now (coincidentally she is 8 soon!!!!)
I also remember the "well I've fed you, changed you, winded you, cuddled you - and you are still crying - I don't know what else to do!" It doesn't do a lot for your esteem I can tell you! Mum's are meant to know the answers - and - big revelation here - WE DON'T ALWAYS GET IT RIGHT!
Thanks goodness things look to be on the up for the whole family. My hat goes off to the Dad too! He seemed to be "caring" for the Mum and Georgina. Finally - a selfless man!!!
Phew - rant over! I don't often post such long responses but this really got to me! There but for the grace of God - - - - - -
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